Thursday, October 27, 2005

Sunny Skies + Jonas = True Happiness for me

For the past few days, all I have been able to think about is this weekend. I not only get to go to Arizona (which will be the perfect escape from Michigan's grey skies and chilly weather). I also get to see Jonas!

Jonas and I are both lucky enough to be going on an all expenses paid trip to Arizona, courtesy of my company.

I may have dreamed of being an academic librarian since high school (and then a public librarian in grad school), but I have been a researcher at a corporate library since May, and I have to admit that it has its perks. Everyone at my office (and their s.o.'s) are spending Fri, Sat, and Sun in Arizona for a "team weekend." Oh, how I love teamwork. :)

Jonas is flying to AZ from CA and is meeting us at the airport. I haven't seen him since September 1st, so when I see him I am going to FREAK OUT! (You know, in a very respectable, reserved, in-front-of-my-coworkers way... I hope.)

I am feeling so excited about the trip and I can't wait to see my hot boyfriend. Jonas and I will probably post some details of the trip when we return...

Monday, October 24, 2005

Myths about Chinese culture from the once naive white girl

I grew up in a very small town in the Midwest, where the population at the time was around 15,000 people. And sadly, it was the largest city for hundreds of miles. I attended a high school were everyone was white or native american, and where many of the teachers had lived in my hometown for their entire lives. During my undergrad, I went to a small college where the vast majority of the students were white. Needless to say, I never learned about Chinese culture until I met Jonas.

As you read the following Chinese culture myths, please keep in mind that they are based on ignorance and not stupidity.

These myths are things that I actually thought were true about Chinese culture. They are all things that Jonas taught me were untrue, as he tried not to laugh too hard. :) (Although this situation is often reversed, when Jonas asks me questions about American slang, which is pretty funny also).

If you are Chinese, you will probably find this very amusing. If you are a caucasian, sheltered, midwesterner, maybe you will learn something new. Ok, here they are:

Myth #1: Chinese cuisine includes General Tso's Chicken, Sweet and Sour Pork, and Crab Cheese Wontons. Yum! The truth: There is MUCH more to Chinese food than what I ate at my favorite Chinese restaurant in college. (Jonas, maybe you can name a few real dishes sometime). My favorite discovery was the amount of tofu dishes in real Chinese cooking. Double Yum!

Myth #2: Chopsticks are only used in rural parts of China and perhaps during traditional/special occasion meals. (I am horribly embarrassed to say that I once thought this was true.) The truth: Even people in the most modernized and Westernized Chinese cities use chopsticks when eating.

Myth #3: All Chinese people speak one language- Chinese of course! The truth: There are a variety of different Chinese dialects. I believe the two main dialects are Cantonese and Mandarin, while Chinese characters have the same meaning for all of the dialects.

Myth #4: All Chinese people are well-mannered, soft spoken, and extremely polite. The truth: Just like any other culture, there are polite people and there are rude people, there are quiet people and there are loud people. I do still believe that the Chinese people I know are slightly less obnoxious than many of the White American people I know. (Like, for example, the white guy at the bar this weekend who actually yelled at me for refusing to dance with him.) But maybe this has more to do with the company I keep and the places that I am meeting people, especially since I met all of my Chinese friends in graduate school (as opposed to the bar). There are subtle cultural difference in terms of manners, but it is pretty complex and too difficult to generalize.

Well, I think those are all of the myths that I can think of right now. But I might do a "Chinese Myths Revealed- Part 2", if I can think of more myths that I once really thought were true. :)

Friday, October 21, 2005

Congratulations! It's a blog!

Jonas and I have been together for a while now (the exact amount of time probably depends on which one of us you ask).

We have conquered some tough relationship trials (from making it through graduate school together to struggling for parental acceptance of our cross cultural relationship). And we were basically inseparable during our time in grad school.

But now we are facing a temporary a long distance relationship, and I want to be able to share something with Jonas, even though we are over 2,000 miles apart. Since we are too far apart to share a plant or a pet (or I guess anything tangible that is not practical to split in half), I thought we could share this blog.

And there is the added benefit of keeping in touch with friends, while sharing our stories of cultural ignorance, shock, and acceptance.